Teen Dating Violence

What is Dating Violence?

Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to gain power and control over a dating partner.

What is a Partner?

"Partner" might mean different things to different people, particularly across generations. The term can be used to describe someone a person is in a dating relationship with.

Who Experiences Dating Violence?

Any teen can experience violence, abuse or unhealthy behaviors in their dating relationships. A relationship may be serious or casual, short-term or long-term. Dating abuse does not discriminate -- it does not see gender, sexual identity, economic status, ethnicity or religious preference.

What Does Dating Violence Look Like?

Teens experience the same types of abuse in relationships as adults.

This can include:

·         Physical Abuse: Any intentional use of physical force with the intent to cause fear or injury, like hitting, shoving, biting, strangling, kicking or using a weapon.

·         Verbal or Emotional Abuse: Non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, constant monitoring, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking.

·         Sexual Abuse: includes actions such as rape or coercion.

·         Digital Abuse: Use of technologies and/or social media networking to intimidate, harass or threaten a current or ex-dating partner. This could include demanding passwords, checking cell phones, cyber bullying, sexting, excessive or threatening texts or stalking on Facebook or other social media.

If you or a someone you know is in a violent relationship, please get help. Talk to a trusted adult such as a family member or guidance counselor. If you feel there is no one you can talk to, please call a Teen Crisis Hotline.

Warning Signs

It can be difficult to tell the difference between a healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationship. Here are ten of the most common warning signs to look for:

1.    Checking your cell phone or email without permission.

2.    Constant put-downs.

3.    Extreme jealousy or insecurity.

4.    Explosive temper.

5.    Isolating you from family or friends.

6.    Making false accusations.

7.    Mood swings.

8.    Physically hurting you in any way.

9.    Possessiveness.

10. Telling you what to do.